The next one will be better

This is what I tell people whenever they are bemoaning the loss of a partner in a break up. I know that's a statement that sounds cliché but I figured that the next one will certainly be better because God does not short-change us. Also, over time, we know what makes us tick and what doesn't so we make a wiser decision on our future choice of a partner.

Of late, I realised that perhaps, the reason why the next one will be better may be because what  used to matter to us before may not matter as much as we mature. What used to bother us may not bother us as much anymore. All the paranoia, jealousy, the oversensitivity which had been the reason for quarrels can be overlooked now because we do not want to go through the negative consequences from the arguments again. We had made mistakes before and do not want to make the same mistakes now.

This is not about compromising our standards nor overlooking offences just because we do not want to be alone. This is us learning, over time, that some things really do not matter, and what's most important is that we love each other through the bearing of each other's faults to make each other better persons, helping each other grow to be more like Christ. We exist to make the lives of others easier to live.

I am thankful to God daily for sending the sweetheart because she's really a great person and I have learnt a lot from her through spending time with her. Our similarities are enough to accommodate our differences and I am thankful for that.
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