For the badminton gals, that is.
They are such darlings, all of them. We were having supper after the weekly badminton session on Wednesday. The conversation around the table made me laugh till my sides ached. Some of the gals were recounting their last partying session and it sounded hilarious! One of my dear friend even printed out "Come join the Les Fit Running Club" name cards and gave them out to the gals in the club! Talking about evangelism! I thought that was something only Christians do! ;)
They asked if I was going for the girls' party at Bellini's this Saturday. I like to hang out with happy people, but somehow clubbing is not my kind of scene. Shouting out a conversation over the booming music, drinking heaps till drunk, dancing in public view of others, and having to conform to the sort of games the inebriated play is not exactly my cup of tea. It's a great place to watch my friends go crazy but not an ideal place to "spend quality time" with them. So I declined. In any case, it's gonna be a busy Saturday for me. Maybe coffee another time would be better.
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Friday, 30 November 2012
In My World of Labels..
Stone Butch, Butch, Andro Butch, Andro, Andro Femme, Sporty Femme, Femme Femme, and two new terms I believed I coined a few years ago; Futch (femme on the outside, butch on the inside) and Bemme (butch on the outside, femme on the inside).
This is the continuum in my world of labels.
Long ago, labels were necessarily for many, despised by some. The opposite may be true now, judging from the conversation I have been having with different groups of friends.
Personally, I find labels useful in helping me describe someone new to another friend who has not met that person e.g, " Have you met that new girl from church, the trendy andro-looking one?" etc. I find labels an interesting start to a conversation where we generate ideas on how specific labels would look like and how they would behave. I find fascinating hearing people talk about labels in their own lives, including how they label themselves, and how others label them.
I think, God has created each and every one of us unique. We put ourselves in a box when we label ourselves and constrain ourselves to a role that may not be necessarily who God has designed us to be. Who we really are is who God has designed us to be; right from the beginning when He had given us our form, to our life experiences that make us grow, that cause our personality to change, and our character to be moulded to what it is today, so instead of merely looking at the form, it is perhaps more useful to look past the surface and see the substance we are called to have.
The book of Galations starts with strong reminder from Paul: It is for freedom that Christ has set us free! We live our lives not by labels but by the Spirit. We are called to serve one another, humbly in love. God has called us to walk by the Spirit. And the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things, there is no law, nor labels. So it is for everyone to care, to love, to nurture, to mediate, to serve, to tolerate, to give, to share, to be gentle and to have self-control.. despite of labels.
So, in the spirit of labels and its stereotypes.... I have two pink caps, one pink watch, am addicted to strawberry kit kats, have been buying strawberry chocolate in substitute of the strawberry kit kat, bought strawberry milkshake malt balls from Candylicious (OMG, that place would make any kid so happy - well it did make an adult estastic last night) , had Ben & Jerry's strawberry cheesecake ice cream for supper last night and strawberry yogurt for breakfast this morning. Am I femme femme then? Having so much pink in my life? :)
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This is the continuum in my world of labels.
Long ago, labels were necessarily for many, despised by some. The opposite may be true now, judging from the conversation I have been having with different groups of friends.
Personally, I find labels useful in helping me describe someone new to another friend who has not met that person e.g, " Have you met that new girl from church, the trendy andro-looking one?" etc. I find labels an interesting start to a conversation where we generate ideas on how specific labels would look like and how they would behave. I find fascinating hearing people talk about labels in their own lives, including how they label themselves, and how others label them.
I think, God has created each and every one of us unique. We put ourselves in a box when we label ourselves and constrain ourselves to a role that may not be necessarily who God has designed us to be. Who we really are is who God has designed us to be; right from the beginning when He had given us our form, to our life experiences that make us grow, that cause our personality to change, and our character to be moulded to what it is today, so instead of merely looking at the form, it is perhaps more useful to look past the surface and see the substance we are called to have.
The book of Galations starts with strong reminder from Paul: It is for freedom that Christ has set us free! We live our lives not by labels but by the Spirit. We are called to serve one another, humbly in love. God has called us to walk by the Spirit. And the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things, there is no law, nor labels. So it is for everyone to care, to love, to nurture, to mediate, to serve, to tolerate, to give, to share, to be gentle and to have self-control.. despite of labels.
So, in the spirit of labels and its stereotypes.... I have two pink caps, one pink watch, am addicted to strawberry kit kats, have been buying strawberry chocolate in substitute of the strawberry kit kat, bought strawberry milkshake malt balls from Candylicious (OMG, that place would make any kid so happy - well it did make an adult estastic last night) , had Ben & Jerry's strawberry cheesecake ice cream for supper last night and strawberry yogurt for breakfast this morning. Am I femme femme then? Having so much pink in my life? :)
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Why this blog?
Inspired.
I was inspired by a fellow churchmate's blog: http://gaywithgod.com.
Very often, in reading others' thoughts, reflections and life stories, people catch a glimpse of their own lives too. And because it is my personal belief that knowing oneself is the first stage to a fulfilling life, I am starting this blog in the voice of a christian lesbian blogger. Hopefully, my stories, thoughts and reflections can be a blessing to others. :)
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I was inspired by a fellow churchmate's blog: http://gaywithgod.com.
Very often, in reading others' thoughts, reflections and life stories, people catch a glimpse of their own lives too. And because it is my personal belief that knowing oneself is the first stage to a fulfilling life, I am starting this blog in the voice of a christian lesbian blogger. Hopefully, my stories, thoughts and reflections can be a blessing to others. :)
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