so I made a boo boo at work today. Not a small one. Not particularly big either. Just not acceptable because it didn't look too professional. Sigh. And of course, I felt lousy after that.
What was worse wasn't that boo boo I made, because everyone makes mistake right? I felt a bit defensive and felt that the blame shouldn't be borne by me alone so when my supervisor was speaking to me about the matter, I mentioned to my supervisor matter-of-factly what I felt he should know. Haiz, which I felt I shouldn't. I mean, I have already apologised and admitted that it was an overlook on my part.I could be more gracious and taken full responsibility on my part and not mention about the other party. Haiz.
I asked myself whether I was being too hard on myself. And perhaps. Because in the grand scheme of things, it's not really a big big thing.. but perhaps it's not such a bad idea to be hard on self when
1) I am aware that I am hard on myself so that I will not let myself be bothered by it
2) I am aware that I am a work in progress and God is moulding me into His workswomanship
3) I can be more compassionate to those around me and do not exert that same expectations on others
My mood was lifted momentarily by my newly completed range of Absolut Vodka, the new range of core designs. They include 5 bottles not distributed yet at Singapore DFS. But ya know.. all these are really quite meaningless, thanks to a casual question asked by a cg mate on Sunday, "So... we should all go to your place for an Absolut party before the world ends." And of course, I replied that I hope I can negotiate with God to bring my collection up to heaven. :p
Praying for a better day tomorrow. Work is getting a bit exhausting. And have I mentioned the heat? Argh.
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Monday, 11 May 2015
Friday, 8 May 2015
Coping Strategies
We spoke a bit about this during JOC cell group social over Starbucks. I love cosy heart -to-heart sharings like these.
Because I am hypersensitive to the things people say and do (too much sometimes), that has caused me some amount of misery through my life. As I grew older and more mature, and more secure in my identity of what it means to be the beloved of God, things got lots better and I was able to use this "gift" to add value to the lives of others.
Three things I have practised that have helped me through life with minimal damage:
1) Do not take things personally
When someone makes a negative comment about something relating to me, I try not to let it affect me. I try not to read too much into a situation when it's about me. I tell myself that the person is not directing that comment at me, and if they are, that they are not insinuating that I am a lousy person in any way. In this case, the knowledge of my worth in God's eyes helps. I open up my heart and take different perspectives on the situation and find reasons why they say and do the things they do.
2) It is not about me
I do not seek to be in the limelight. God sees what I do. I do not need to claim credit because everything I know, I do, I receive, comes from God. It calls for an enduring spirit sometimes and lots of graciousness but it humbles the soul.
3) Let it go
I do not need to be defensive. God sees my heart. If it is something negative, I practise letting go before bitterness sets in. I do not think about what is, what could be and what it could mean. I tell myself that it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. It's not worth the energy and effort fighting that battle because I know God knows the situation, God is in control and God will intervene on my behalf.
Wokay. I am blogged-out today! TGIF!
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Because I am hypersensitive to the things people say and do (too much sometimes), that has caused me some amount of misery through my life. As I grew older and more mature, and more secure in my identity of what it means to be the beloved of God, things got lots better and I was able to use this "gift" to add value to the lives of others.
Three things I have practised that have helped me through life with minimal damage:
1) Do not take things personally
When someone makes a negative comment about something relating to me, I try not to let it affect me. I try not to read too much into a situation when it's about me. I tell myself that the person is not directing that comment at me, and if they are, that they are not insinuating that I am a lousy person in any way. In this case, the knowledge of my worth in God's eyes helps. I open up my heart and take different perspectives on the situation and find reasons why they say and do the things they do.
2) It is not about me
I do not seek to be in the limelight. God sees what I do. I do not need to claim credit because everything I know, I do, I receive, comes from God. It calls for an enduring spirit sometimes and lots of graciousness but it humbles the soul.
3) Let it go
I do not need to be defensive. God sees my heart. If it is something negative, I practise letting go before bitterness sets in. I do not think about what is, what could be and what it could mean. I tell myself that it really doesn't matter in the grand scheme of things. It's not worth the energy and effort fighting that battle because I know God knows the situation, God is in control and God will intervene on my behalf.
Wokay. I am blogged-out today! TGIF!
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Family Holidays
Family holidays are never cheap, especially when I have to pay for my Dad's and helper's share plus accommodation for the family.
We have gone for two family vacations the past two years after Dad's surgery and recovery, one on Star Cruise and the other to Bali. Both trips have cost me up to 2k. So it was a pleasant surprise when my auntie offered to come up with 10k for 5 adults to Perth (my parents, another senior citizen couple as well as my Auntie). The only thing is that I will be their driver and tour guide. hehe. She said I can pay for myself since I am working.
I am completely stoked. Going to my 2nd home together with my parents and not having to pay for them. Woot. That saved me a great deal of money this year. We are scheduled to go in September. Lovely weather. I can't wait to start planning. :) Thank you God!
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Important questions to ask in living the ABUNDANT LIFE
What does the power of the Risen Lord mean to you?
What impact does the Risen Lord have in your life?
How are you empowered by the fact that the Lord has risen?
I thought that a very important question to answer because I am a bit jaded by how many people I know are experiencing the Christian life, not that they are experiencing Christianity wrongly or anything like that. But I know for a sure fact that God desires for us to live empowered lives, lives that would demonstrate His glory on earth! Through us!
A christian life is not about going to church weekly or more than a few times a week
A christian life is not about reading the bible or christian materials every day for all days of the year
A christian life is not about going for bible studies to improve our knowledge of God
A christian life is not about being committed in attending cell group weekly or more than a few times a week
A christian life is not about putting self down for service to the different ministries in church
A christian life is not about giving 10% of our finances, time, or gifts to God
A christian life is not about reaching out to the community or to the people in need
All of the above are good things to do. And good things that good christians too. But a christian life is so much more than the above.
Being a christian means knowing that we are the beloved children of God, deserving of all the love that God has given us and is continually giving us
Being a christian is contemplating and meditating on the words we read from the bible, letting the Holy Spirit shed light into our hearts
Being a christian is knowing that God is present and that we are able to remain in God's presence every single minute of our lives
Being a christian is being sensitive to the prompting of the Holy Spirit who leads us to do and say the right things at the right time
Being a christian is being empowered by the power of the Holy Spirit translating into the energy and passion-filled life
Being a christian is being deeply indebted to how much God loves us and how much God has given to us for us to experience wholeness and healing
Being a christian is giving the Holy Spirit the space to work, to lead, to reach out to the people God puts in our mind, to pray for the person whom God places in mind, to look at a person and looking at them in the way Jesus would
Being a christian means letting the power of the Holy Spirit transform our souls so that our hearts, our minds, and our bodies align with the transformed soul and we experience true, sustained peace
That's what the power of the risen Lord means to me.
Heaven is a place on Earth
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What impact does the Risen Lord have in your life?
How are you empowered by the fact that the Lord has risen?
I thought that a very important question to answer because I am a bit jaded by how many people I know are experiencing the Christian life, not that they are experiencing Christianity wrongly or anything like that. But I know for a sure fact that God desires for us to live empowered lives, lives that would demonstrate His glory on earth! Through us!
A christian life is not about going to church weekly or more than a few times a week
A christian life is not about reading the bible or christian materials every day for all days of the year
A christian life is not about going for bible studies to improve our knowledge of God
A christian life is not about being committed in attending cell group weekly or more than a few times a week
A christian life is not about putting self down for service to the different ministries in church
A christian life is not about giving 10% of our finances, time, or gifts to God
A christian life is not about reaching out to the community or to the people in need
All of the above are good things to do. And good things that good christians too. But a christian life is so much more than the above.
Being a christian means knowing that we are the beloved children of God, deserving of all the love that God has given us and is continually giving us
Being a christian is contemplating and meditating on the words we read from the bible, letting the Holy Spirit shed light into our hearts
Being a christian is knowing that God is present and that we are able to remain in God's presence every single minute of our lives
Being a christian is being sensitive to the prompting of the Holy Spirit who leads us to do and say the right things at the right time
Being a christian is being empowered by the power of the Holy Spirit translating into the energy and passion-filled life
Being a christian is being deeply indebted to how much God loves us and how much God has given to us for us to experience wholeness and healing
Being a christian is giving the Holy Spirit the space to work, to lead, to reach out to the people God puts in our mind, to pray for the person whom God places in mind, to look at a person and looking at them in the way Jesus would
Being a christian means letting the power of the Holy Spirit transform our souls so that our hearts, our minds, and our bodies align with the transformed soul and we experience true, sustained peace
That's what the power of the risen Lord means to me.
Heaven is a place on Earth
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I actually enjoy writing
I realised how much I miss writing. Or typing on the keyboard. Letting my thoughts flow from my heart and mind through my arms, hands and to my fingers. Woot! Got three more posts coming up in a while.
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Angry and Upset!
sigh. I am upset with myself for not blogging regularly. Thank God, however, for the grace He has given me to extend compassion on myself and be able to forgive myself more easily. :p
I had thoughts I wanted to articulate since about 2 months ago. Haiz. I wish I can make it a point to blog more readily. I only almost start blogging when I am doing an assignment. Because only in doing an assignment, I have to ensure I have unlimited battery life on the laptop, an internet connection, worship/praise music, and seated at a place where I can blog comfortably.
It's funny. As I am writing this post, a new challenge came to mind. I have always been able to express myself better when I am writing than when I am speaking. Ironic I know, especially when I have to do that as a day job. But perhaps the challenge now is to be able to translate what I write to expressing it verbally. So people won't fall asleep while hearing me speak, or complete my sentences for me. Haiz. Yes that just happened yesterday. Okay! Think this is the new challenge of the season. Gambatte!
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I had thoughts I wanted to articulate since about 2 months ago. Haiz. I wish I can make it a point to blog more readily. I only almost start blogging when I am doing an assignment. Because only in doing an assignment, I have to ensure I have unlimited battery life on the laptop, an internet connection, worship/praise music, and seated at a place where I can blog comfortably.
It's funny. As I am writing this post, a new challenge came to mind. I have always been able to express myself better when I am writing than when I am speaking. Ironic I know, especially when I have to do that as a day job. But perhaps the challenge now is to be able to translate what I write to expressing it verbally. So people won't fall asleep while hearing me speak, or complete my sentences for me. Haiz. Yes that just happened yesterday. Okay! Think this is the new challenge of the season. Gambatte!
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