I was in a relationship once where I tried several times to get out of it because I felt it was unhealthy and that we were incompatible for each other. I failed those several times and ended up being together again after she pleaded, cried and asked. Obviously, I wasn't ready to let go because I was still emotionally attached to her. It took a trigger at that moment that helped break away from her.
Subsequently, in the next two relationships, I made it a point to detach myself emotionally once the relationships were over. I thought I was strong to not be drawn back into the relationship. But I realised that it was precisely the fact that I wasn't strong enough to face them that I had to run away so I need not go through that period of mourning with them. I learnt that being strong enough means being able to cry with them, and tell them you are as upset and sorry that the relationship could not continue, in so doing, give them an avenue to make that gradual and proper closure, that by God's grace, we will still be able to be friends in time to come. I have learnt that very well, I think. And I think I am strong enough to be able to do the closure the right way if it had happened now. But of course, I pray hard that this never have to happen again.
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